said This American Life, of some poultry:
words from a dear friend who is also eloquent and good-brained and encouraging and helpful and may or may not own a blog that doesn’t need to be publicized here. but just sayin’ — the credit goes to her.
Every decision is like a turn that determines which way you go.
Choosing one route means potentially missing out on the best parts of another.
You never really know what you may encounter along the way. It could be good, it could be bad, but you’re going to have to face it.
Wanted to write down some of the things I like to keep in mind for the sake of future decision-making:
1. Never resent the decision you make. Learn to value whatever you end up with. If you ran into trouble along the way, at least you learned something.
2. Make sure it’s good for you in the long run. What may make you happy now might not be good for you (or for others) in the long run. Also make sure it’s good for you in the present time. How prepared are you for this right now? Do you have a plan for sustainability? Are there other things that are more important or you need to tend to?
3. Don’t be afraid. You’re going to face troubles one way or another. It’s just a matter of choosing which trouble is more worth it and which you are willing to work for. Also don’t be afraid to fail or make mistakes. Just make the best of the experience.
4. It’s never too late to take a turn. If you do end up in a situation where it’s just not good for you, then don’t be afraid to take a step in another direction and make things better. Remember there are other ways. Try to avoid having to do this though as each step in the wrong direction takes time and pain. Make the good choices, then stick to your commitments.
5. Stay true to your values. Will this help make you into the kind of person you want to become, if not better. Can you defend your decision and have integrity?
6. Be real. As much as you like to see the better side of things. Know that there are problems that will not go away. Know what you are uncomfortable with and make sure you’re okay with those things. Some of them may even get worse. Know your limits.
7. Listen to the word of the wise. Take other people’s input into consideration. Sometimes you need to take what other people say with a grain of salt, because maybe you know the situation better. After all, you’re going to have to be the one to live with the decision. But just listen, then be the judge of whether it’s valid or not. Just get the extra perspective so you’re not blind-sighted. See what has and hasn’t worked for other people. But also know that you have to make your own way. Just because it worked for someone else, doesn’t mean it’ll work the same way for you.
“Oswald Chambers writes, ‘Never make a principle out of your experience; let God be as original with other people as He is with you.’ To that I would add, ‘Be careful not to turn others’ lives into the mold for your own.’ Allow God to be as creative with you as He is with each of us.”
– Excerpt from Francis Chan’s Crazy Love